So, this post is only to vent, please ignore it if you are not in the mood to hear it. :)
I try to be non-judgmental when other moms tell me how they handled sleep, pacifier, discipline, feeding, etc. because as the mother of our little blessings we are given free reign. Does the bible not command me to not judge others?
"Judge not, that you will not be judged. For the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you." Matt. 7:1-2 (ESV)
Why then, do others feel the need to turn their nose up at me or make snide remarks about my style of parenting. No, I didn't need a pet! I live my days to take care of my child, what more am/was I supposed to do? I love this little girl more than life itself. I have only done what I have felt was right for our family and our little girl, with the support/love/agreement of my amazing husband.
When my child had not taken a nap and never slept more than 30 min. at a time at night and was almost 4 mos. old, we were desperate and took desperate measures. SO WHAT! I didn't ask you to do that with your child, I only chose to do it with mine because I knew she needed sleep and we were not helping her by assisting her every hour on the hour every time she cried out. I also did tremedous research (reading 4 different books, seeking input from other mothers, and PRAYER) and came to a conclusion and put it into action. No, we didn't choose to put our baby in our bed, or even in a bassinet next to our bed. Instead, I got up and down as many as 40 times a night in the beginning to go to my child. You know, a bassinet or co-sleeping would have been much easier, but easy was not what my goal was. It was getting my child comfortable sleeping in her crib and it was the way we chose to go about it, cold turkey. It was extremely difficult to put her in a crib when she was three days old and walk down the hall to my room and leave her, but eventually we would have to do it, so we thought we would do it from the beginning. I can remember for the first couple of months spending my entire night running back and forth all night to soothe her and as soon as I would get into my warm bed, she would cry again (within a couple minutes of me being in there) and I would go back. Does it sound like I need a pet, I mean, really? I am a horrible, mean, unattentive mother who doesn't deserve her child, right?
(note: about the above paragraph, I think it is 100% fine to put your baby in bed or in a bassinet, I just didn't have one and figured eventually we would have to transition, so we just started with a crib instead of buying one... if I had had one, I may have put her in my room too :)
Also, I hear all the time how great my baby sleeps at night. People are in awe of how I can just lay her down (when she is not sick or teething) and she just goes to sleep. Everyone says we got lucky. I think it had much to do with our "conclusion" and "action" when she was younger, but either way, we obviously did what was best for her because she sleeps now! She is a much happier, attentive child now than she was when she not sleeping for more than 30 min. at a time.
On another note, I wore my child too. Just not 24/7! I wore her when we were out and about she loved it, but she also loved to be put down. Really, is that a crime? I am not given the freedom to put her down after I have carried her for 9 mos? LOL I don't see anywhere in my "book of instruction" (aka the Bible!) where it tells me if I don't put my baby in my bed and don't carry her on my tummy for a year 24/7 that I am a bad parent. Please, send me scripture if you find it and if I am in violation of God's word, not only will I try my best to fix it, I will ask for forgiveness and STILL will not judge you!
Please, don't judge me for being the best mom I can be. The ultimate judge knows my heart (and yours) and knows that I would give my life for this child (as I am sure you would for yours) so just let me be a mom and I will let you.